Narcissistic Abuse is a pattern of interacting with another non-narcissistic person that causes significant emotional trauma and consists of “The Terrible Ten.” These narcissistic methods are a means to erode the other person’s identity, confidence, and self-esteem while causing them to question their own reality, purpose, and self-worth.
The Terrible Ten
Vulnerable Targets– The narcissist is almost always a serial abuser going from one target to another and often having several people at various stages in the manipulative relationship. They are experts in spotting people who are kind, caring people, who often due to their past, have trouble setting healthy boundaries and therefore are more easily manipulated and controlled.
Love Bombs– The narcissist showers you with gifts and attention making it difficult for you to see any negative issues. Professes you are the most important person in their world. They claim you are special and you deserve someone equally special.
Charms—Your friends and family often think this person is awesome, because the narcissist never shows their true colors to others. The narcissist has thousands of stories of how special he is and how everyone loves him.
Gaslights– The narcissist twists your words, denies saying things, convinces you that you misunderstood them – even when you have proof
Controls— The narcissist controls you emotionally with phrases like “if you loved me you would (or wouldn't) _____”
Isolates—In time, the narcissist tries to keep you isolated from your friends and loved ones.
Blames/Refuses to take Responsibility—The narcissist blames all their bad choices, irresponsible behavior, temper, substance abuse, legal issues, money shortages, or other character flaws on someone else or you. Also, they claim that everyone else is crazy, including all of their exes, former friends, and family.
Berates—The narcissist, after capturing you emotionally, begins to demean, belittle, verbally abuse, or embarrasses you in front of others, and then says that it was your fault that it happened.
Ghosts– The narcissist suddenly disappears, doesn’t respond to texts or voicemails, and doesn’t answer their phone.
Hoovers—At various times in the relationship especially if the narcissist believes he is losing control over you, he often returns to the excessive attention – frequent calls, texts, emails. This is an attempt to do ANYTHING to re-establish the previous connection and control he had with you even after you have attempted to go “no contact.” This increased attention may include stalking.
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These relationships leave one feeling overwhelmed, depressed, defeated, hopeless, and believing that life can never and will never be the same. As both a child, and a former partner of a narcissist, I understand the ashes from which you've come, as well as the struggle you find yourself facing.
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